Mind over matter
Get your mind in orgasm mode before you even start taking your clothes off. An orgasm is a release of muscular tension so, the longer you're mentally aroused for beforehand, the more powerful your climax. Sounds like a good way to get him to do a slow striptease...
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Build the excitement
You don't need to raid his porn box to get in the mood (though plenty of women do enjoy sharing porn with their partner). Watching a sexy movie or reading a saucy book out loud to each other can get you excited.
Enjoy yourself
Explore orgasms on your own. It's rare to be unable to orgasm through masturbation (well, with a bit of practice anyway and that's not exactly a hardship is it?!). Once you've mastered the art, why not show off your new skills to your partner so he can get an idea of exactly what gets you going.
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A girl's best friend
If you want magical orgasms, better get your hands on a good wand! Use a vibrator to practice with, get to know your body and the sort of intensity of touch you enjoy then, if the excitable wonder stick interferes with sex with your partner simply recreate the vibrations and pressure in other ways.
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Let's play ball
Orgasm balls, also known as Ben Wah balls, are designed to be placed inside the vagina and then to remain there while not having sex to stimulate and tone the muscles and sensitive nerve-endings. Some swear they make their whole lives sensual!
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Go down on me
Most blokes love performing oral sex, and will enjoy it as much as you. The tongue is the ultimate instrument for stimulating the clitoris. Gentle licking, sucking and nibbling is the key to many women's orgasms.
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While you're there...
While he's doing this, ask him to insert one or two fingers inside you, and gently thrust them in and out. Lots of women find that a gently inserted finger in their anus adds a whole new level of intensity to their orgasm.
What's going on down there?
Don't bother with 69s - you only get distracted by what the other person is doing and it's also worth giving up on the simultaneous climax - admit it, they only really happen when you're faking it!
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Heavy breathing
Once you start having sex your breathing naturally increases, which can lead to you holding your breath. Breath deeply and regularly and you'll find you'll let go and reach orgasm more quickly.
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Find your G-spot
We're all different, but your G-spot will be about two finger joints deep inside the front wall of your vagina. It's soft and feels like a little sponge. Once you've found it, try touching it with a finger by curling and straightening it (a beckoning motion).
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