What to do
* DO socialise as a single woman
Getting out there after a break-up helps you realise that life isn't just about one person. It's a whole lot healthier than getting depressed over the past.
* DO time it right
Meeting someone new is one of the best (and most enjoyable) ways to get over a break-up. But you need to time it right. The first couple of weeks after a painful break-up is not the right time to be dating again.
Monitor your recovery during the weeks after a break-up. When you can walk to the shops without bursting into tears, it's a start. When your ex is no longer the first thing you think about in the morning, you're getting there. When you can laugh out loud with your friends without bursting into tears, you may be ready to start flirting.
* DO accept that a fling is a fling
A fling or two reminds you that you're not a "failure" because your relationship didn't last forever. Besides, no-strings flings are among the biggest perks of being newly single. Many a married woman would love a fortnight of 24/7 sex with a man they barely know.
But be honest about your intentions, and don't lead anyone on when you have no intention of falling for them. And don't mistake it for something more serious, or you risk getting hurt all over again.
* DO step back if it doesn't feel right
You don't know until you try. If you feel ready to meet new people, but when you give it a go you find it too painful and can't stop thinking about your ex, then step away from the fling and stop hurting yourself.
Enjoy your own company and your friends' company, and don't be rushed into being part of a couple again. You're a whole person, not an unattached half of a whole.
* DO listen to your friends
If the people who know you best think that you're courting disaster by diving into the social pool too soon, heed their advice. They have your best interests at heart, and they may be able to see what you can't.
What not to do
* DON'T be a bitch
While it's good to embrace your freedom to flirt with and date whomever catches your eye (assuming they're willing), remember that they have feelings too. If you just want sex and fun, and the other person seems to be falling for you, get out before they get seriously hurt. This is your chance to be your happy, carefree self again, not to get your revenge on the opposite sex.
* DON'T use a rebound as a substitute for your ex
Psychologically you may still be living and sleeping with your ex. Imposing this mindset on a new partner man is unfair to them and unfair to you. It's not going to work out, and you'll both be left feeling terrible.
* DON'T use a rebound to get back at your ex
Have some self-respect! Only have a fling if you want one, not because you want to punish your ex – or lure him or her back.
If you seriously want your ex back, flaunting your sexual attractiveness in front of them won't do you any favours. It will embarrass your ex in front of their friends, diminish their impression of you, and undo any chance of a future friendship with someone you presumably once cared about. If in doubt, do all your rebound flinging well out of sight of your ex.